I had one of those weeks…
You know the kind I’m talking about.  Where you feel deflated, confused and like you can’t tell where to put your feet next.  No matter the possibilities that showed up for me it was followed by this immediate angst of: not enough money, not enough time, not enough fun, not enough, not enough, not enough…
Where did I go with all of this yuck?  To my tool kit!
After asking myself what I was aware of and sitting with that question for a while (not looking for an answer, just being with what came up) I came to the awareness that I haven’t been choosing for happy.
Happiness is one of the primary platforms that my life is created on.  When I’m happy things just work.  I have more energy, zest for adventures and a myriad of resources are available to me.
What is a platform?  It is a key energy from which you create your life.  It is the spring board you use to catapult yourself into more possibilities.  It is what sustains your life so that the fits and starts, roadblocks and angst don’t impact you.
A platform is not a thing or place or a person.  It is an energy.  A quality of being that is so true to you that you may not even notice it.  Which I get is one of the ways I ‘lost it’ briefly this week.
When I had this awareness, as I was sitting on the beach staring gravely out to see (drama anyone?), light bulbs went off in my brain, the weight of the world lifted off my shoulders and a giggle from deep inside my belly traveled up my spine and broke through my lips.
YES!
Next step?  I asked “If I was choosing for happy what would I chose?”
Awareness came hard and swift: more fun, more play, more flirting, more money, more lightness…
That day I was invited on and enjoyed a fun date, 2 new clients appeared, I found a place to hold body work sessions within steps from my new apartment and a lightness of possibilities began to sparkle around me.
Ask and you shall receive…  And when you ask with your platform as a primary way to choose and create – MAGIC!
So…  What is your platform?  The energy and way of being that is innate, easy and truly you?  The thing that lights up even your darkest day?  Happiness, joy, play, spontaneity, unpredictability, peace, fun, ease…  And if you were choosing for, with and through that quality what would your life be?  What’s next to ask for and receive?
Have fun playing with this!  Let me know how it goes…

Can caring for your body be a way to create more mental ease? We have all experienced being over worked or going through a difficult life transition where we let our caring for our body slide. Why is that? So much of the stress, anxiety and problems we are looking to solve eat up our energy like a hamster spinning on a wheel. Our minds get so busy trying to solve the situation that our bodies get ignored. Being aware of or taking care of your body just doesn’t make it high on the to-solve-list in these circumstances.
For me personally my appetite goes away when I’m very stressed. During my younger years, when I was without tools to allow my body to contribute to my mental health, it was common for me to forget to eat. On the flip side another common ‘stress’ behavior is to overeat in an attempt to drown out your emotions with food. These are examples of how we don’t listen to our body and almost punish it during stressful times.
Hearing our body signs for what it needs to be functioning optimally gets drowned out by turmoil. Poor diet, sedentary behaviors and restless nights become status quoe. We start a negative cycle of not being able to tune into our bodies and as a result our mind/body connection gets weaker as our stress continues to build.
What if instead of ignoring your body during these times you engaged with it more? What could your body contribute to your mental health? What if we could utilize body care as a way to calm mental dis-ease?
Our bodies are amazing gifts that can be utilized as a gateway for stress relief, consciousness expansion and improving our self-esteem. By taking care of your body, you take care of you. The result? More mental ease, more body ease and ultimately more ease in your life.
Next time you find yourself in a stressful, anxious or depressed cycle start playing with these tools:
• Ask your BODY – What would create more ease right now?
• Keep a running list of the things you can do for your body that create a sense of peace in your world: exercise, hot bath, walk in nature, massage, 5 minutes of deep breathing…
• When you ask the question above which of these things pop of the list? Follow that body awareness and do it.
• Allow the relaxation and pleasure of the body to bring you back to the present moment, ground in yourself and know that right now – you are okay.
• Move forward with your day allowing your body to contribute to you in any way it can.

I love this saying and what it represents; being so open hearted that everyone in your life knows how you feel about them.  What I don’t love is the often ‘negative’ way it is used; with the implied message that there is something wrong with being open, vulnerable, honest and expressive in your loving.
How many of you were taught to keep your tender sides to yourself?  How many of you expressed your loving when you were younger only to have it rejected, unacknowledged or unreceived?  How long have you been carrying those past ‘shut downs’ and have they been keeping your heart locked up tight?
The good news is, no matter what you have experienced in the past, change is always available.  You can recover your tenderness and begin to expose your heart once again.
An exercise for change:
Think of the first memory you have of when you tenderly expressed your heart and it wasn’t received.  Even if it seems silly or inconsequential the fact that you recalled that memory means it is still at play in your universe.
Get all the hurt, shut down or wrongness that was created in that moment and the moments after.  Allow it all to be present no matter how heavy or intense it is.  Now find the one molecule that is ready to change and turn it 180 degrees.  Now turn it again.  And again.  And again.  Continue to flip the molecules of those energies until they lighten up and expand away from you.  Flip them until they disappear into the ethers and you feel more open.
Our true beauty of being lies in the tenderness of ourselves.  Those open, vulnerable and expressive/receptive energies that we try like hell to cover up for fear of them being rejected, unreceived, unrequited or weak appearing. Recovering your tenderness, releasing past hurts and softening to expose your tender heart will allow you to be more present and open in your relationships.
What if you had the target this Valentine’s Day of being as heart-on-your-sleeve as possible?  What if you allowed yourself to uncover your tenderness and express it to those in your life?  What would that create?  Are you willing to give it a go?
If any heavy energies come up, which they may, repeat the exercise from above.  Repeat it until you feel light and expanded – more like the true you.  Energy has consciousness and can change upon request faster than imaginable.  By turning the molecules 180 degrees you are requesting and receiving an energetic change.  The universe is built on energy.  You change the energy; you change your world.
Lovingly and tenderly yours,
Lauren Polly
P.S: I did a really fun radio interview last Valentine’s Day titled “My Chatty Valentine: Loving Beyond Words” on the Living Weal’s radio show hosted by Keisha Clark.  Here’s the link to the replay if you are interested in exploring how actions and ENERGIES speak louder than words.  http://a2zen.fm/media/my-chatty-valentine-loving-beyond-words-with-guest-lauren-polly/

2.  What is beyond those pictures? Pictures are conclusions and only allow you to be happy if you create exactly the image you have in mind. What if the life that makes you happy looks different then you anticipate it would?  What’s required to create that?
3.  What is the ENERGY that accompanies these pictures? Is there lightness in your space? Do you and your body get relaxed? Do you smile? Does it tickle your insides? Do you get excited butterflies? Start to tune into the energy underneath the pictures and the next time something shows up that gives you that energy or sensation choose it – even if it looks different then you think it would.

The Lie of Emergency

 
As I was rushing through my extra busy patient load at the hospital today I found myself engaging with an old thought pattern.  Everything is an emergency – DO IT NOW!  Stress.  Run.  Don’t breath just move.  Don’t BE just DO!
This thought pattern is so familiar to me after 11 years of hospital work.  Somewhere along the way it became an automatic function for me as soon as I stepped into the building.  It became part of my work outfit, something I would don each day along with my scrubs and lab coat.
Until I realized something very cool…  This thought pattern?  It isn’t mine.  It never was.  It is a by-product of a stressful work environment along with a lot of type-A personalities impelling it at each other.  Sure, some tasks are STAT but even in the medical field they are the minority of the daily ins and outs of the job.
It is easy to get swept away in the energy of the environment.  To be at the effect of it.  Until you make the demand not to be.
I know that if I be present, relax into myself and move at the pace that creates more for me then I accomplish what needs to be done.  Always.  I’m calmer.  I’m happier.  I can contribute more fully to my patients and the other staff.
I get to be the one who functions differently.  I get to inspire by example and set the tone and pace that works for me.
Sometimes I need to remind myself of this.  Like I did today.  But that’s the amazing thing about becoming more conscious.  You become aware of when you aren’t functioning as you.  When you are getting swept away by the environment or other people.  And better yet you have the tools you need to put yourself back on track.
Acknowledge it isn’t yours.  Return the energy to sender.  Ask a question.  Choose to change it.
Is this working for me?
Is this state of mind and current way of being creating what I desire?
Is this really an emergency and something to be stressed over?
What do I know is possible that if would chose it would create more ease?
What could I be or do different here?
I have so enjoyed playing with these amazing Access Consciousness® tools in my work at the hospital, while building my business, in writing my first book, with my family dynamics, in my relationships, with my body…
Wondering how to dive in deeper with these tools?   Ready to build the strength in knowing what works for you and the commitment to have it always?
Emily Russel and I would love to have you join us and the other amazing people choosing the Lake Michigan Retreat for Access Foundation/Level 1 November 5 – 9.
Check out the event info below to see if it sparks some creative potential for you!
https://www.facebook.com/events/992928804084377/
And as always I’m here for sessions or a quick pick me up as needed!
Ease and Joy,
Lauren

Stepping into the Light! New Offerings and tidbits on CREATION!

As some of you know I just moved to Los Angeles after being on assignment in the High Desert of California for 5 weeks. My time in the desert was interesting… besides going a tad stir crazy I enjoyed the open sight lines, the beauty of the sand and rocks and the company of a handful of people who opened my ways of seeing the world.  How better?! It also gave me the SPACE to actualize a few creations that have been bubbling under the surface and creating themselves in the shadows of my awareness.  Now’s the time to allow them to step into the light and be birthed into the world.  They are a culmination of all my classes, sessions and personal explorations over the last 2 years (or 2 trillion give or take a few…) Are you ready???? Introducing…

My FIRST publication!  The Change 6: Insights into Self-EmpowermentI had the honor of being hand picked by Toni Robbin’s first mentor, Jim Britt and Jim Lutes to be a co-author in their book series: The Change! Each chapter holds uplifting, relevant information on how to be empowered and create the life you desire. It is a global project that has connected me with many powerhouse coaches, visionaries and entrepreneurs all over the world!.  Stay tuned for some wonderful events hosted by me and the other co-authors! My chapter on “Breaking the Rules of Engagement with How You Communicate” is in book 6.  Get a FREE download of it HERE

The Energetic Orgasm Experience!3 guided meditation/energetic exercise audios and eBook that lead you through 7 steps to accessing ORGASMIC energy all the time! Are you ready to explore your body’s full ORGASMIC potential? Are you interested in more intense orgasms during sex? What if I told you there was a way to not only have that but expand that joyful orgasmic energy through your entire body and being? To access it all the time?  To BE it?  And to utilize it to create your life? Are you ready to explore a very different perspective? Accessing and playing with Orgasmic Energy on this deep level changes the way you experience orgasms and sexual pleasure. Sex is better, orgasms are more spaciously intense and best of all the amazing energy doesn’t stay in the bedroom. It permeates your body/mind to allow your life to be a total orgasmic experience! Join me and my friend Kim Lucien for a FREE google hangout this Tuesday the 20th at 6pm PST to start unlocking this energy in yourself and your body!  Tune in here:  https://plus.google.com/events/c5leuo2j3ea6kq7h2b331k9ubas Get the FREE eBook that explores the 7 steps HERE. Ready to dive in? Buy the full product line here: http://shop.laurenpolly.com/

Lakeside Michigan Retreat!Join myself and fellow Certified Access Consciousness Facilitator Emily Evans Russell for a weekend of play, possibilities and fun in discovering and building your toolbox for practices and simple techniques to changes your life. This weekend consists of the core classes of Access Consciousness, Foundation and Level 1 (prereq – Access Bars). What Will You Get Out Of This Weekend? Feel More Alive Transform struggle into play Deepen your relationship with yourself and others Change habits & patterns that no longer serve you Increase self-confidence Deepen the connection and communion with your beautiful body Be comfortable in your own skin Tools to be you and have ease in any situation Find your own happy Love on your body! How to create from being instead of doing Introduce play to every area of your life – from work, to sex, to family life Operate from no competition with yourself or others BONUS: We will be having class in an amazing house in Lakeside, Michigan just about 75 minutes from Chicago and right on Lake Michigan. If you choose to stay 1 or more nights during the class, it is only $60/night! For more info go here: https://www.facebook.com/events/992928804084377/

Talk to the Entities Classes! Talk to the Entities is a fully comprehensive system for learning how to deal with, facilitate, clear, receive from and have overall ease and peace with the Spirit world.  In these classes and sessions you will learn a set of tools, processes and philosophies that will totally revolutionize the way you think, feel and function with the spirit world. Entities are a huge part of our world and all of our lives whether you realize it or not.  This topic has been swept under the rug and severely judged for way to long.  People are born with the ability to perceive energy and spirits; it’s a gift not a disability. Come explore a new way to function with the spirit world; a way of peace, ease and clarity. I’m so happy to be offering: Individual sessions: in person or via skype/phone 2 hour Introduction classes: First one in Lake Michigan Novemeber 5th! 2 day Beginner’s classes: First one in Los Angeles November 14-15th! 2-4 hour specialty classes in specific areas with the spirit world: Stay tuned! Check out more info here: http://talktotheentities.com/facilitators/lauren-polly/

If you ranked the relationships in your life in order of the priority you give them, how far down on the list would your relationship with yourself be?  Does it even make the list?
A few years ago I didn’t have a true relationship with myself.  I didn’t even know I should… I had no sense that a relationship with myself was a possibility.
I busied myself with being things for other people.  Need a shoulder to cry on?  Need someone to be silly and make you laugh?  Need a direct conversation to hold you accountable?  I would be what I knew the other person would value so I could then find value in myself.
I built a pseudo relationship with myself through other people’s perceptions of me.  Their need and appreciation of the role I fulfilled for them became my only relationship with myself.  The only way I knew myself.
Sound familiar to some of you?
It wasn’t until a dear friend accused me of being an emotional flasher – showing all my vulnerable glory in a split second then hiding again behind my cloak of who I was to her – that I started to look at this.
She challenged me to show more of myself to her.  To take down the walls, throw open the cloak and be me in our friendship – not who I thought she needed and wanted me to be.
What a gift…
She unwittingly started my journey of discovering who I was, without the confines of the roles I had taken on for other people…
Would you be willing to do the same?
Who you are outside of the roles and needs you fulfill for others?
What would be different if you allowed your inner voice to drawl your attention as much, if not more so, then the voices around you?
What if you fostered and nurtured your most important relationship of all – the one with yourself?
Ease and Joy,
Lauren
MORE PLAY:
Interested in exploring this topic further?  My FREE radio show this Monday the 14^th is about Being Your Own Playmate.  Emily Russel and I will be sharing tools to build intimacy and fun with yourself – no matter what.  How many doors can we kick open?  Click here for listening information: https://www.facebook.com/events/1626623364292363/

The Lie of Loneliness: As most of you know I have been traveling the world for the last few months.

Alone.
Along the way I have been to events or met up with folks for company but the vast majority of my time has been alone.
I’m getting asked frequently if I’m lonely…
“But who do you talk to?”
“Who do you eat with?”
“Who do you share your experience with?”
Well, me.  I spend my time with me.  I’m not lonely.  I have me.
I never got how different I was in this.
For most the idea of being alone for a long period of time, heck even a short period of time, leads to loneliness.
Sure, there are times I’d like to be around others.  Times when conversation, joking or other people’s energy are a contribution to me and lead to fun.
But it isn’t required…  I’m not lonely without it.  I’m simply alone.
I wonder…
Are you willing to be your own playmate?
Can you have fun with yourself?
Do you like yourself enough to revel in your own company?
If you had more ease with yourself would you ever be lonely?
I invite you to try out some alone time.  Take yourself on a date.  Take a trip.  Do something that you always desired to do but haven’t yet because you couldn’t find anyone to do it with you.
Be alone.
It is different than being lonely.
Try it out and see…  How much fun can you have in your own company?
Ease and Joy,
Lauren
P.S. Choosing to Be Your Own Playmate Retreat is coming up September 25-27 on beautiful Lake Michigan!  My friend and fellow Access Consciousness Certified Facilitator, Emily Russell, will be co-hosting this 2.5 day event.  We will be exploring how to find and be more of you to have fun no matter what!  Even when you are alone…